Relationships are hard and they undoubtedly take a lot of work and effort from both partner involved
No matter how happily you and your partner shares a relationship but, there are frame of times when you’re unable to let certain things just slide off.
When you spend time with someone, you get to know a side of them that made you fall in love with them, but there are side that you might not love nearly as much. There will be big and small things, that you may not agree with, but every disagreement should not lead to a major fight.It’s easier said than done.
In the time frame either one of you losing your temper and igniting a fight, here’s exactly what you should refrain from doing. Remember, you maybe angry, but there’s no need to declare open fire.
Here are a few things you should avoid during a fight with your partner.
Drag in past issues During A Fight With Your Partner
Here’s the thing, if you insert past During A Fight With Your Partner, even a single incident – then you will be never able to stop that fight, unless you talk about an issue, resolve it and move on.Because involvement of past will make your fight more crisp and objective.
Adding past to a fight will show that you still holding onto a grudge from a previous issue and, you obviously haven’t moved on from that issue.
So even if you think you’ve been through the issue once, it’s better to talk about it in a cool and collected manner rather than seek another opportunity to bring it up.
Telling them to “calm down” During A Fight
Seriously, if your partner is firing words on you and you asking them to keep calm? this is the worst thing you can say to someone who is feeling anything but calm. To ask them keep calm will indicate your unwillingness to hear them out, and it also sounds very patronising. No one likes to feel either of them in a normal situation also.No matter how tempted you might feel to say “calm down”, refrain.
Assigning the entire blame on them During A Fight
No single fight is to be blamed on a single partner. No matter who did what or who got angry first, unless it’s an unforgivable mistake made by one partner,So there is no need to play ‘blame game’.
A disagreement or misunderstanding in your relationship shouldn’t lead to you feeling like you’re in accused, by trying to prove yourself innocent and you may sound like other person is guilty.
Common Guys and girls, You both are in the same team, and your goal is the same – that is to resolve the issue. Assigning the blame of the entire issue on one person will make a small cracker to an atom bomb.
Instead, try and view the situation, try to find out where you went wrong and why the person you love is screaming at you, put little bit of empathy.