In the early stages of dating, it’s normal to spend a huge amount of time with your partner. As you’re getting to know each other better and enjoying the honeymoon phase of the relationship. But if your relationship is taking too long to get to know each other and eating up your time which was once for your friends then it might be time to pause and evaluate why there’s such an imbalance.
Here are 5 Signs that Your New Relationship eating up Your Old Friendship
You often cancel plans with your friends to spend more time with your partner.
Balance is the key to healthy relationships, but the first thing we lose after coming to a relationship is ‘Balance’. If you find that you have been frequently cancelling plans with friends to give more time to a relationship. Whenever you meet your friends you got to listen to taunts like “Ladki mili to bhai ko bhul gaya”.
Your friends may be hurt and might get angry too, and later, you may feel resentful of the time you invested in your relationship at the cost of your friendships.
You learn your friends’ big news on social media instead of hearing it from them directly.
Normally you would be the first person to know if your friends got a new job, how his /her new hot colleague is, went away for a weekend or next weekend plans. But if you are finding out these big events first on social media, perhaps your new relationship has impacted your friendship.
When you’re with your friends, all you talk about is your new relationship.
It’s very common to get excited about your newly cooked relationship and you always want to talk about it with your friends. But when it becomes the only,or even main topic, it starts suffocating your friends.
Make sure you talk about your friends’ lives as well. And when you respond to what they share, keep the focus on them and what they shared about themselves before bringing it back to you.
Your partner is jealous of the close bond you have with your friends.
A lot of people think its normal for a partner to be a jealous of friendships that take you away from them. But it’s not. A big NO. People are multidimensional, they need variety of relationships to fill their many complexities. You need family, friends, co-workers, people who share your same hobbies, and romantic partners. If your partner gets jealous of any of these relationships, then it’s blocking the way. And termed as symptom of a controlling relationship
Your friends avoid hanging out with you when you’re with your partner and rarely invite him or her to join group activities.
If you don’t like someone you don’t ask out them for any of your stuffs. So if you’re finding that your friends don’t want to hang out with you when you’re with your partner, it’s either because they don’t like them or they don’t like you when you’re with them.
This could happen because you becomes a different personality when you’re around your partner and others might don’t like the person you become.
If your friends call you, but not your partner, it means that your relationship is interfering with your friendships